Frequently asked
questions
1. Why isn't my ad up yet?
Your ad
(profile) is approved before becoming visible to others. This takes up to a
maximum of 24 hours but is usually no more than 2 hours. Currently the
profiles are approved by me and an admin team employed to look
after the approvals 24x7.
2. I'm new to swinging, how do I get into the
scene?
The best way to get into the scene is to answer an ad or post your own.
That's what this site is all about! As this question often comes from single
males let me offer some direct advice to that group - try answering ads first
in the Couples for males section - always be polite - send full photographs,
cock shots may not get you as many responses. If at first you don't succeed
- try, try again. If someone says they are going to the Bermuda triangle
for an extended holiday take the hint and move on to the next ad. For more
information click on the "New Swinger?" link at the top of this page.
3. David; how do I get to meet you/have my
picture taken with you?
Single women and couples - send me your photos first! One of my other
hobbies - travel - often means I am out of email contact, so if I don't respond
right away do not be offended - I may simply be out of town. I like to play
with ladies who are keen, active participants. I am at ease with
husbands/boyfriends being there to watch, take pictures or to join in. There
are more details of my likes etc on my bio page, and in the sample ad.
Men - I am flattered by the attention but I am STRAIGHT - please do not
waste your time and proceed directly to Males for males section.
4. I'll be in Town on x night. How do I get
a really beautiful girl?
I cannot guarantee action to anyone - not even myself! You
have four options here -
1. use some foresight and planning and answer some ads a few weeks before
your trip to arrange a meeting
2. visit a swing club during your visit
3. put a posting on the forum - you may get lucky
4. call an escort
If anyone has additional ideas/options on this theme let me know.
5. How does one get started as an
escort?
Other than placing the ads I have little contact with escorts. I encourage
you to contact them directly. Remember these are professionals whose time
and expertise are valuable and treat them accordingly.
6. How do I start my own adult
site?
First, you will need to give up all your other hobbies and interests.
Maintaining a site is a lot of work which doesn't leave much time for other
things. Remember that if you create a site that people like, they will be
very demanding, and keep asking for more content.
For general information, my server is a dedicated rack in the USA. I use FrontPage to create
the pages, and an 8mb broadband connection to upload everything.
If you want to go ahead and build one, there are many excellent tutorials
on website building available through any search engine on the web.
I will also build you websites go to http://www.ddproductions.co.uk
for more details.
7. I will be in the City on
x day. Please send me details of clubs/parties.
All the information I have on house parties and commercial clubs is on
the site "Clubs and
Parties". If you have details about clubs or parties in
your area please send them to me and I will add them to the site.
8. Please introduce me to Jane/Sue/Lynn
etc.
I do not do personal introductions except between people I know, and who
I think may get on well together.
9. David, I have had no responses to my ad
- or no one responds to my emails.
This site is a free resource for swingers. No one is a member, so I have
no means by which to "make" people respond to ads or to mails sent in response
to an ad.
Men please be aware - couples and ladies who advertise for men get so
many responses it is impossible for them to respond to all of them - To try
and understand the problem I have been talking to a few of the new advertisers.
They have told me that the response rate has been in excess of 500 emails
a week. This means that to read the responses alone takes a very long time.
If it takes one minute to read each mail, it takes more than eight hours
to read 500 mails, and replying to them, even at 30 seconds a mail takes
more than four hours. Emails with pictures slow the process down, especially
when you send them at high resolution (greater than 96dpi) and/or where the
image is very large - greater than a maximum of 600x400 (this is plenty large
enough to let people see you - greater resolution and size is only needed
when you want to print a picture).
Don't respond to ads where you do not fit the criteria of the advertiser.
You are wasting their time, your time, and clogging up the internet with
hundreds of pointless emails.
Please read the etiquette section to be found on the links above.
10. David, is my email link working?.
Yes. I cannot force people to reply, but your mail has reached them, and if
they have tried to respond their mail will be in one of your in boxes inside
your profile.
11. Can you tell me where to
find:
- a turkish/swedish/dominant escort? - check my
ad listings, or some of the links to other escort boards. I do not have time
to browse the internet very often, when I do, I am not looking for
escorts.
- a discreet hotel in London/Paris where I can take
my girlfriend? - use a search engine and look for hotels+cityname.
12. My wife/husband is not keen on the idea
of swinging, how can I persuade her/him?
You cannot without risking your marriage, talk about
it, but don't push it. If it is not something you both want to do, don't
do it - it will end in tears.
13. What is acceptable
content?
It is easier to say what is not acceptable: this
is my list, not a legal requirement
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No Children to be involved (a person under the
legal age of consent) in any sex act or picture. (If I think a person looks
under age I will ask for picture id (a passport) as proof of
age/identity)
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No animals to be involved.
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No violence - beyond mild
bondage/spanking.
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No pix of scatt.
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No mention of Rape or sex under duress
I will always reserve the right to pull any ad that
I do not think fits in with the tone of the site.
14. What does ac/dc, bdsm, etc.
mean?
Have a look at the "Terminology" page listed at top of the
page
15. What do I do at a swinging
party?
Have a look at the information on the "Etiquette" page listed on
menu above.
16. Why don't you have a chat
room?
I have now got an excellent chat room integrated in the ads system.
17. David, can I buy you a
beer?
Yes please - mine's a pint of Stella ;)).
created
revised:
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7th September 2000
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24th April 2001
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October 10th 2003
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December 12th 2004
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October 31st 2005
Thanks to a young lady in America for creating
this page, and preparing most of the content for me.
And thanks to Hils in France for her grammar
corrections.